But how do we do start allowing ourselves to move through our emotions? We start small and learn to become a container for experience. There maybe some emotions that are really available for you, and some not at all and so it is good to spend some time to reflect on this. Between the two friends and I we have a playful joke of emphasising the words “no no, I am fine, everything is JUST FINE” You know it’s not - its good to get curious about what your pushing to the side or not allowing yourself to feel. Then there are the emotions that we have access too and we are able to express in a really overwhelming messy way and so can we get curious about the pattern that comes with them? Firstly it is good to seek out safe spaces where we learn how to hold them and understand them. There are many resources and all kinds of therapists that can help you access this, it also is helpful to aqquire non-violent communication skills to be able to effectively communite your feelings to others. Recently I did a wonderful 'emotional freedom' somatic dance workshop with Bernadette Pleasant, founder of the Emotional Institute, she has an intoxicating and fiery way of teaching and regularly leads discussions on emotional healing, grief rituals, inclusive movement, and empowerment for all.
“I speak to individuals who have been silenced, shut down, suppressed and unexpressed.” – Bernadette Pleasant
For my own journey of accessing emotions, one of my greatest teachers was and is the practice of Yin Yoga - the slow meditative practice invites you to come into grounded asanas and commit to stillness while over time (a few minutes) the gentle yet consistent load of your body and the magic of gravity help to release the deeper tissues of your body. We have many things stored in this tissues, on my mat I have experienced sadness, grief, anger, bliss, boredom, agitation and many more… there in the stillness there is no where to go but just observe the emotions, reactive thinking patterns, stories and sensations are they rise and pass, move and change. Here is this profound style of Yoga I started to find ways of being comfortable with the more uncomfortable experiences. We always are supported by the breath.
There is pure gold in the pain, there is real strength in the pain and there is resilience in pain- being able to be true to what is real for you right now. Accepting the truth of your feelings in every moment makes you fully Human! Your whole being matures by developing emotionally capacity.
In September I will be hosting a 3 week online challenge. The content I have geeked out about for the last few years and I am so happy to gather it all up and offer it out. Each morning there will be an opportunity to explore some theory and then invitation into a practice of Yin Yoga or Yin/Yang Yoga to explore your internal landscape becoming more familiar with your body. By combining the poetic, nature-based philosophy of the Five Elements Theory (which Yin Yoga draws on) with scientific insights from Neurophysiology. This intention is cultivate and develop trust in our inner experience and allow it to be our navigation system- both out in the world and in our relationships. (Please see event details below)
All my Love